Monday, March 30, 2009

Hair...


I am definitely partial to short hair on guys.

I was just looking through some old pictures and seeing some guys with longer hair who have recently cut it short and I can say that the short hair looks WAY better - no exceptions.

I have pictures of my brother, nephews and friends and can say that they ALL look better with the shorter hair look.

I don't even know what the current 'trend' is - but I can hope that short hair stays 'in' and 'cool'.

Then there is the chest hair thing...if you have it - keep it under control! Better yet - wax it off!! Now I realize that most men, at the thought of waxing their chest hair, would quickly jump in their heads to the 40 Year Old Vir*gin movie and that infamous waxing scene. So I understand the hesitancy to wax, but trimming works too.

Just as men are partial to NO underarm or leg hair and either none or 'controlled' bikini hair - women like men to have their hair 'controlled' too!!

Those are my thoughts of the day.

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Sunday, March 15, 2009

Bad Blogger...

I have been a bad blogger lately. I really do MEAN to write more often, but somehow I just don't have anything to say.

This blog started out to chronicle our journey to our daughter and I suppose it still is, we just thought it would take months and not years.

It is really hard to keep the momentum going for so long and knowing that there is possibly another 5 years of waiting ahead of us...sigh

So I am just wondering - who reads this? Who is out there?

Leave a comment and let me know. If you use anonymous - leave your name too!!

Saturday, March 07, 2009

Ontarians please read...

I copied this post from Beth with her permission. Please read if you are adopting a child in Ontario. I was mortified when I read this.

Saturday, March 7, 2009
My Fellow Ontarians
Prepare your dialing fingers ladies. The Ministry of Health and Long Term Care has decided that our children don't get OHIP coverage right away!!!!!!!!!! They have decided that a 3 month waiting period is mandatory. Please read this and spread it around. I got it from here. I know many of you don't read RQ so you might not have seen it.



Re: New Directive from OHIP Head Office that denies OHIP coverage for 3 months for all internationally adopted children

We are Donna and Brad, a couple who adopted a baby girl, Thao, from Viet Nam. We went to Viet Nam and adopted our daughter on Dec. 29th, 2008. She was granted Canadian citizenship on January 7, 2009. On February 12th, Brad went to the Kitchener OHIP office to apply for Thao's OHIP number. We were shocked when she was refused a number and told that there was now a 3 month waiting period for internationally adopted children. We thought that there had been a mistake.

Brad returned home and called the information line to obtain clarification about what exactly the policy was about granting coverage to internationally adopted children. The woman who he spoke with told him that a memo had been sent out from the Minister's office to all OHIP offices on January 27th, 2009 directing them to refuse coverage to children who were not Canadian citizens when they were adopted. Of course, Brad explained that that is impossible, that the process is that a child is adopted and then becomes a Canadian citizen. The woman checked with OHIP's head office and confirmed that the correct procedure is to deny OHIP coverage in our case. Brad asked why it was that the 2 other couples, who we met in Saigon and who had adopted children at the same time as we had, had gone to their OHIP offices in Toronto and Ottawa and had been immediately given OHIP numbers. She told him that their situations must be different from ours since they were granted OHIP numbers. When he assured her that they had adopted their children after us and had obtained their children's Canadian citizenship after Thao had obtained hers, she asked him if he could send her their information. He asked her if their coverage could be revoked if it was determined that their situations were the same as ours. She replied that, yes, their coverage could be revoked. Brad told her that he obviously
wasn't going to provide her with any information that could jeopardize their children's OHIP coverage.

After many phone calls, emails, and meetings with OHIP officials, our local MPP, our social worker, other parents, lawyers, and adoption agency directors, we now know the following: we were not a clerical error. We were not a special case. We were not a mistake. Denial of coverage to internationally adopted children for 3 months is policy. This policy was not publicized so it is taking everyone involved in adoption, from agency directors, to social workers, to parents, by surprise. This policy is so new that it is being inconsistently applied from OHIP office to OHIP office so that on the same day in Ontario, one child might be granted OHIP coverage while somewhere else in the province another child in exactly the same circumstances is denied it. However, one thing is clear: while, as far as we know, our child was the first to be denied coverage, the numbers of children who are being denied is increasing every day throughout the entire province.

The first thing that everyone who has adopted a child, or is going to adopt in the future, needs to know is that the Ministry of Health considers the granting of OHIP coverage to all internationally adopted children in the past to be a mistake. The Ministry has been contacted by many agency directors and social workers who have heard about our case, and, we surmise that as a result of the number of queries about the denial of coverage for our daughter, Sue Graham, a representative from the head office of the Ministry of Health contacted us to obtain more information about our case. What she told us exactly was that the Ministry considers that all adopted children, who did not have citizenship or valid immigration status on the date they were adopted, were given OHIP coverage by mistake. She clearly stated that the refusal to grant our daughter coverage until after a 3 month waiting period was the correct procedure. She told us that our file was being sent to her manager and would most likely be sent to her manager's manager.

On Wednesday, March 4th, we received the official denial of the three month waiting period exemption for our daughter. The core of their argument is that "an adopted child must hold a citizenship or immigration status recognized under Regulation 552 of the Health Insurance Act on the date of adoption". Of course, as you know, this is impossible since you can't get citizenship until after you have actually adopted your child. This is definitely a change in policy and from what we understand is the result of the memo/directive (we haven't been able to get a copy) from Minister Caplan's office on Jan. 27, 2009, although, as we wrote, not all health offices have been enforcing it. As has been mentioned, two other couples who were in Saigon with us and returned after us, one to Ottawa and one to Toronto, got immediate coverage.

So, where do things stand right now? Needless to say, we are incensed for Thao and for all internationally adopted children. We have retained a lawyer and have filed a formal appeal to the Ministry of Health. Our lawyer and other interested lawyers have studied the Health Insurance Act line by line to determine if the provincial government's position has any validity. In their view, there is not a requirement for citizenship on the date of adoption.

We are also in touch with members of the media to make this public. We are sending this email to as many adoption agencies, social workers, and parents, as we can, as we become aware of them.

We are sending this to you to ask you for your help in our fight against what is obviously an unjust and discriminatory policy. If you know of anyone who has been refused health care coverage for their child, please ask them to email us immediately (donna.brad@sympatico.ca). As well, please email, Premier McGuinty, Minister of Health Caplan, your local MPP, and Sue Graham at OHIP (sue.graham@ontario.ca). The person who sent us the letter informing us of Thao's denial of OHIP coverage did not provide an email address. However, her name is Susan Pinnery, A/Director, Registration and Claims Branch.

Finally, we believe that the provincial government thinks that the number of people affected by this policy is small and that we don't carry much weight. Therefore, please forward this on to your friends, relatives, and anyone else who is opposed to this policy.

Cheers,
Brad and Donna

Time to call your MPP.

Thursday, March 05, 2009

Out of Curiosity...


Just out of curiosity, when you leave a comment on someones blog, do you click the "E-mail follow-up comments" button?

Just wondering...

Monday, February 23, 2009

Freaked out!!

We received a bag of 'stuff' from some friends for Pumpkin. We are so lucky to receive hand me downs for her eventual arrival.

The other day we were going through the bag while in our bedroom. We sorted the clothes into sizes, sorted out the toys and repackaged everything to put in storage. We somehow left a toy on the dresser. The packages were all packed and put away so the toy just sat there. It sat there for a couple of days. Not doing anything - just sitting there.

A few nights ago, I was quietly sleeping away and I was awoken to the sound of a child laughing. Like CHUCKY laughing. It wasn't the least bit funny. You know when you wake up in the middle of the night and you know that something woke you up but you need a minute to figure out WHAT it was that woke you? Well I lay there thinking that. Then I heard a noise - a laughing child - creepy laughing. I happen to be looking in the mirror on my dresser when the noise happens and I see flashing lights.

I quickly realize that it is this toy on the other dresser that is making this noise. I figure it is just going to stop. It doesn't stop. About once a minute it makes this creepy laughing noise and a 'boing' noise. The lights are going and I am freaked out.

I wake up Mark (he can sleep through anything). I ask him to 'take care' of freaky outy toy as I am slightly spooked. He sleepily gets up and takes the 'toy' down to the basement so that we can't hear it anymore.

He comes back upstairs and figures that since he is up he will use the bathroom. Well he turns on the light and it goes POP! You know the sound it makes when it suddenly burns out.

I am FREAKED! For those who know me in real life, know that that is not me. I don't get freaked by this kind of stuff. Now I have it in my head that there is an 'energy' in the house and there is a ghost watching us.

But I go back to bed, finally fall asleep again and wake up in the morning and brush it off in the light of day.

Skip ahead a couple of days to this morning. I get up this morning and come downstairs. Mark has already left for work. I notice that the 'tree' in our living room has the lights on. You know those little white twinkle lights? So I call Mark at work. I ask why he put the lights on on the tree. He says that he didn't put the lights on and he figured I did and didn't know why I would but didn't give it another thought.

I didn't put the lights on...

So I started this post because I just sat down at my computer and I was checking my e-mail and POOF - the twinkle lights on the tree just turned off. While I was sitting here looking at the tree. They just went poof...

Not quite sure what to think of these happenings. We have lived here for 5 1/2 years and NOTHING like this has ever happened and now we are talking a few incidents in a week???

HMMM

Friday, February 20, 2009

HAPPY BIRTHDAY HUSBAND!!



*since my computer went poof - I don't have any pictures of husband on here to post...This is his incognito look - hard to do in a sombrero!!


HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARK!!!

Enjoy your day - you deserve every single minute of it!!

As I said last year - CUPCAKES for you this weekend!!!

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

A Conversation


Here is a conversation that Mark and I had tonight...

Me: There is absolutely nothing happening in the blog world tonight.

Mark: We should have cake then.


O.k. I am still laughing at that line.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

I wonder...

I wonder a lot these days...

Will I still have this blog in another 4 years when our referral is expected?

Will anyone still be reading it?

Will everyone that was behind me in line have switched to the Special Needs program?

Will blogging be so...passe in 4 years.

Will blogger be able to handle 4 more years of blogging space.

Will everyone ahead of me in line be too busy with their kids to even notice that we have our kids.

Will we EVER get our child from China?? Really? I don't believe it anymore...

Friday, February 06, 2009

26 months...sigh...



Well folks, it is that time of the month again. I can't believe that we have been "in line" for 26 months already. I WISH we could say that we are at the 1/2 mark in the wait, but that simply isn't the case.

According to 'the site', our latest prediction is FEBRUARY 2013!!! YUP - you read that right!

However, every cloud has a silver lining and our lining is Dolores and Shawn. They will be our travel mates and our waiting friends throughout this LONG journey!! I hope we don't get sick of each by 2013!! LOL!!

Thursday, January 22, 2009

HUH??

We interrupt this vacation to ask the questions...

HOW THE HECK CAN YOU GO FROM A RUMOUR OF 23 DAYS DOWN TO A REALITY OF 2 DAYS????

HOW COULD IT HAVE GOTTEN SO, SO, SO WRONG??? HOW???

Now back to the beach - that will make me feel better!

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Our Anniversary



Five years ago today I said I DO to the most fantastic man in the world from there I became the luckiest woman in the world!!

We were married on a beach in Cuba and it was perfect. Today we celebrate our 5th anniversary on a beach in Mexico...I see a trend happening here...(this post has been pre-written and post dated)

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY H!! You have made me one LUCKY and HAPPY woman!!

I LOVE YOU!!

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Coinectomy...


A while ago, Mark and I purchased a "PIGGY BANK". This was the kind of piggy bank that DOESN'T have a hole in the bottom to sneak the money out!

We both put our change in there. Well the change that doesn't get spent anyway. We decided that we would use the money for a vacation! Well the time has come as has the vacation!!!! WHOO HOOO!!

Since the piggy bank doesn't have a hole, we had to perform a coinectomy in order to extract the coins!

You saw the BEFORE pig at the top of the page...here is the after pig... I know it is sad for the pig, but he was the PROUD holder of $168!!! How great is that!!



We will have some nice spending money for our trip!!!

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Sigh...


In a very short time, Mark and I will be heading to the Mayan Riveria!! I CAN"T WAIT!!!! With the horribly cold weather we have been having, the snow and the everything, I can't wait to get my toes in some warm sand and have a drink with an umbrella in it.

Well yesterday, I decided that I should try on my bathing suits and see what fit, what didn't, what I would pack and what I wouldn't...While doing this, I was apparently torturing myself as I was eating a package of these:



WHY would I eat chocolate while trying on bathing suits, well I don't really have an answer to that one. I am not even a big chocolate lover. I am the person who can have a BITE of a bar and put it down and put away. HOWEVER, when it comes to Cadbury Fingers, I HAVE NO WILLPOWER - NONE - NADA.

They were REALLY good...AND I went out shopping today and bought a NEW bathing suit!!

Thursday, January 08, 2009

HELP!!

I am back!! I have my computer and I am happy to have it home!! I am getting things organized again and putting back the stuff that I need on it.

However - have a question...

I seems that now when I am typing - my cursor just jumps to another place on the page and my typing goes there.

Does that make any sense??

Here is an example:

If I were typing this s and the rest of ntence and then I continue on and my cursor will jump** my sentence is in the previous line...

Does anyone know WHY this happens of HOW to fix it...

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

25 Month LID


Here we are again...THAT time of the month.

We have done this so many times and this one is number 25. The sad part is, we are not even half way through...there could possibly be 2 MORE 25's from here...that is right - we are looking at another about 48 months from NOW!! You can now pick your jaws up...sigh.

HOWEVER - to every bad part, there is a good part!! We have a wonderful couple to wait with and today, Dolores and Shawn, we wait with you!!!

Monday, January 05, 2009

I have learned my lesson...

I am currently TRYING to back up my files on my computer. I have been trying for 9 hours now. I think I have finally gotten it.

Tomorrow morning my computer goes in to get wiped out. It is FULL of virus'.

By backing up myself and burning to disc, I have saved myself $99.99! Since I have all the program discs, I will save there too. However, it is still going to cost a bundle to correct. I am a smart woman...or so I thought...

I know better then to NOT have any anti-virus on my computer. However I did put some on - a little late, but still...AND I can't run it. The virus that is on my computer has blocked it.

Since I don't want to be without my computer, I will be paying extra for EXPRESS service. I should have it back in two days.

Soooo - I will not be around as much - I will have to share a computer with Mark. That will probably not go over so well...LOL!!

After this expensive lesson, I do realize that buying anti virus in the first place would have been cheaper...I will know for next time.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Stuff



  • I wanted a picture for this post. I typed STUFF in the place where I sometimes get pictures. Quite and eclectic range of shots were displayed. This is one of them...
  • We survived the shortest day of the year! From here on in, the days get longer and longer. I am glad that that is the case. The nights seem much longer these days.
  • I don't know what I was thinking...I went to the mall today!! Again - I don't know what I was thinking. I didn't even really need anything. I just went for something to do. Actually I was forgetting that Christmas was just around the corner and off I went. I was quickly reminded when I got to the parking lot. Amazingly enough, I found a spot quickly and went in. I didn't stay too long as I was getting frustrated with all the people.
  • Speaking of Christmas, I can't believe that it is only 3 sleeps away! How did that happen so quickly? It just really came out of nowhere.
  • If you invite me to your house, please turn the tv off. I am there to visit you and not watch tv. If you want to watch tv, then don't invite me over. I can watch whatever I want at my own house AND I don't have to talk to you OVER the sound of the television thankyouverymuch.
  • My computer is acting up again. I don't know what is wrong with it. Mark is getting frustrated as I keep getting on his computer.
  • I don't think I will post again before Christmas (I know, I know - your jaws are all dropping at that one!! LOL!) so I want to wish everyone a great Christmas!!

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Christmas Tree



Christmas is coming up so quickly! I am KINDA prepared. I have MOST of my shopping done but I haven't even started the wrapping yet.

Christmas day is a busy one for us - we have FIVE stops. It is a busy day, but a good day spent with family.

On Boxing day however, we stay home, in our pj's all day. We don't answer the door, we don't answer the phone we just stay in and eat the left overs that we have gathered from the 5 stops from the day before. It is BLISS!!

Saturday, December 06, 2008

TWO YEARS!!!!!!!!!



Yes people - that is TWO YEARS that we have been waiting in line to get our baby from China. I know there are people who have been waiting longer then we have - however, I am SURE that we will wait longer then them (does that make sense?).

It has been THREE YEARS since we started on this journey.

However - trying to keep on the positive - we have met so many FANTASTIC people and have become part of a wonderful community. Some of the people that we have met on this journey will be life long friends and for that part of the wait I am thankful.

Today also marks the TWO YEAR mark for Dolores and Shawn. In keeping with the positive, if we were not where we were, we wouldn't be traveling to China with them.

Happy 24 months to us and them...sigh...

Wednesday, December 03, 2008

Lost and Found

In our home, we have a set of cordless phones. It is one of those sets with three handsets. We have one handset and base on each level. It is also one of those sets that doesn't have a "HANDSET LOCATER" button...

One day the phone rang (well it rings most days) and I couldn't find the phone. I RAN upstairs to get the phone upstairs. I started talking on the phone and brought it downstairs with me. That was about 3 weeks ago.

Since then, we have not had a phone upstairs. We have been looking EVERYWHERE for the 'downstairs' phone and have not been able to find it.

Well today, I was sitting on the couch and I dropped something in the cushions of the couch and I came up with a phone!!

I am happy that we have found the phone!

Yes it is true and sad that that is all I have to write about here!!